It’s a
great headache, stomachache, “soulache” not being able to stay cool, to let something(one)
go, and believe me, as hot headed as I am, I have been someone who tries to
stay cool when feelings are involved. So, yeah, yeah… I know, I know… I have
heard these phrases at least as many times as I have told them: “The best thing
to happen is what happened”, “Attachment is not healthy”, etc… However, that’s
easier said than done.
It doesn’t
matter how many times I repeat myself those phrases, it doesn’t matter how many
times I try to relax and let things flow… When deep in your heart you feel
something is wrong, then it is wrong. And in this case, to me, what I feel is
wrong is to let go.
I make
plans. As improvised as people think I am, I always make plans and prepare
myself for at least 3 different outcomes. I try hard to think at least two
steps forward before setting something in motion. Therefore, I made plans. I made
plans for everything to be perfect. I wanted the perfect place, the perfect
moment, the perfect words. None of that worked. Murphy, as usual, interfered and I never got to tell the perfect words in the perfect moment and
place I had planned. But despite that… I did tell those perfect words. Maybe
much later and definitely not the way we had expected but still, they were
perfect.
So, I made
plans; short-term plans and long-term plans. Plans that I could not carry out
because of Murphy. And the worst is that later I learned that you had no idea
about any of those plans. That you thought that I was just a relaxed guy with
no plans. But au contraire, mademoiselle, I DID have plans for you, me… both.
But
something that I have learned is that, as much as we want some things to be
perfect, as much as we believe that we need flawless plans for life to work, we
actually do not need them. As much as we believe that those plans were
necessary, they actually are not. What is important is not the plan… that is
just a mean. That is the reason we can talk about “backup plans” and “plan B, C
and D”, what truly is important is the goal. For that, there is no back up.
So, without
any plans or agenda (I’ve lost track of them all) I still have my goal set. That’s
how I know deep in my heart that letting go is not what I am meant to do. I
will still make 3 different plans and prepare myself for 3 different outcomes,
because that is just who I am, but I won’t let that prevent me from achieving
my goal, from not looking at the big picture.
Right now,
what I need for an answer is not a “forever” (though that’d be awesome), not
even a “yes”. Right now, I would be extremely happy and satisfied with a simple “definitely
maybe”. That would tell me that my goal is somehow reachable. A “definitely maybe” and I’ll work my way up there. Promised.
P.S: No matter how many plans go down the toilette, I do know what I need to be happy...
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